Whether to hang photos of deceased relatives on the walls is a purely personal matter. True, today it has become almost a trend: in modern apartments you will find old family photos less and less. Why? What are we afraid and what are we avoiding? Writer Nikolai Kryshchuk thinks that the matter is not in photographs at all.
The question is not so simple. I, I repent, looked into the Internet discussion after I decided to write this column. The topic is violently discussed that it was a surprise in itself.
Give arguments of various sources and specialists. The healers answer unequivocally: “The photographs hanging on the walls will suck your life energy”.
Fans of Feng Shui are just as adamant: “Dead images direct negative energy to your house”. They recommend keeping photos in albums or in cardboard boxes on the mezzanine.
More tolerant and voluminous to this problem psychologists. They believe that hanging or not hanging photos is a matter of individual choice, and it is difficult to disagree with this.
On the vastness of the same Internet, someone gives advice that, in my opinion, proceeds from the heart mind: “Images remind us that life is short and we must live with joy and wisdom. Leave prejudice and listen to your heart. If the photo does not drown you in sorrow and sorrow, leave it on the wall. If you keep resentment and claims to the deceased person, you need to forgive him with all your heart. Then you will live in the world, and the photos will not bother or scare you “.
Well, a very brief and definite answer is given by a priest to the parishioner’s question: “Father, I read that it is impossible to keep photos of dead relatives in the bedroom. Is it not superstition?”The answer is:” Superstition, do not pay attention “.
Reading these opinions, I suddenly clearly understood that the question was not entirely posed. In the end, each has its
own style, manner and method of memory. Some keep photos under glass on a desk, others put them on a storyteller or hang them on the wall, and others are stored in albums, the fourth are worn in a purse. All this is not a topic for public discussion.
I want to talk about something else. According to my observations, family ties are weakening. I heard from many friends that they are much more expensive than related relationships on interest, community of views, tender sympathy and others. It happens that a person of a native blood falls into this row, it happens – no. But love him only because one blood flows in you?
Indeed, related attachment sometimes resembles nostalgia for patriarchal times, when family members were connected by a common house and work, literally the same walls, one profit and an instrument of economy inherited.
Today, from the family nest they fly out as early and easy as possible. Work, and interests, everyone is different, the companies are different, again not on the principle of neighborhood and kinship.